But first of all, what does it mean to you to have style? Is it to dress in an original way and especially not like the others? Is it dressing in the most flattering way for your body type? Does that mean telling a story? Does that sound like someone you admire? Is it following the trends? etc …
Here is my personal definition of style:
To be honest, I’m a little embarrassed by this notion of having found your style or not, as if not having found it was a failure in itself. I don’t believe that having a dress style that defines us is essential, even when we love fashion. No, what is essential is to feel good in your clothes and to be in agreement with the image that our clothes convey to others. Of course, we can decide to completely free ourselves from what our looks refer to people. Wear only what you like, including the gothic look at thirty if we like… In this case, I can only congratulate you because it is a sign of great self-confidence that I really admire!
For me, having style means feeling good in your clothes and feeling in harmony with the self-image that you refer to others. It’s a story of self-confidence, whatever our style (a shame!). hmm, I feel like I’ve lost you … which brings me to the second point: the story you want to tell with your clothes on.
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Choose the story you want to tell with your clothes
Above all, we are lucky to be able to tell all the stories we want with our clothes. Elegant, sexy, glamorous, rocker… you can decide to be whoever you want with your clothes!
Obviously, the best is to dress according to our personality with a sensible jeans, snake bikini with a long skirt and branded shoes. The idea that we have of ourselves and the one that we want to convey to those around us. What do you want to say about yourself through your clothes? Nothing special ? That you are a cheerful person? Whether you are introverted or extroverted by nature? Do you like simplicity? That you want to highlight your strengths, what you like about yourself?
Everything is possible
you are free to dress according to your desires. You can also choose to be all of these people day after day, there is no rule.
So imagine the person you want to be and define what clothes you could wear to be that person.
For example, my priority is to wear comfortable clothes that adapt to my daily life with two children, including a baby. So I could just wear joggers and sneakers BUT I also want to be feminine and elegant. For me it is important to return this neat image to others. I see this as a mark of respect for myself and those around me. The story that I want to tell people is therefore this one: “once upon a time, there was a young mother active and comfortable in her skin, who advocated comfort and simplicity but who did not want to give up elegance ”…
Dressing in a simple and elegant way therefore requires me to wear basic but well-cut clothes, which suit my body perfectly. My outfits are often minimalist because I like the Scandinavian style and for me the “effortless chic” side is the very notion of elegance. My ideal outfit? Slim jeans, a silk shirt and a pair of flat boots. But for you, simplicity may rhyme with a pair of black pumps, a black skirt, a lace top …
You may have a different story. For example, stylo shoes you may want to tell the story of a happy, outgoing woman who loves to party and has kept her childish soul. So you might want to wear bright colors because the colors correspond to this definition of the happy woman you want to be… Do you understand?
But you could just as easily be a cheerful and outgoing woman without wearing pink or colors… There are no rules, we have the right to have fun with clichés or to want to play with our appearances.